A week or so ago I discovered The Book of Pook compiled by Gubby on the DJ Bible site. I have been having a lack of success in my journey to enlightenment so I decided that I needed to find something else to study. The bullshit I was studying before wasn't doing me any good.
Pook brings out the idea of improving yourself within rather than trying to use tricks and tactics to pick up women. This makes complete sense to me and a lot of the stuff I have read by Pook I have realized in my journey on my own and he has reinforced it. For example - Mystery. Instead of pretending to be mysterious, why not actually BE mysterious? Its more fun, less work, and better in the long run. Be too busy to be around all the time rather then pretending to be too busy. After all do you think the naturals use tricks and tactics? No they don't know of these tactics. The naturals convey all the tricks and tactics naturally.
NOTE: A majority of the credit for this learning experience goes to Pook.
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15 lessons that I want to keep in mind that I have learned so far from Pook. He has elaborated on these obviously, but just as a reminder:
(Italics = Pook and Normal = me)
1) "Rejections is better than regret" Very true! Sure I've heard this before but when I went to a dance recently I really wanted to see for myself and it was very true. I felt so happy that I attempted to pick up a bunch of girls rather than sitting there drooling over the hotties like the other AFCs.
2) "Stay out of the friend zone" I have realized this forever but it's always a good reminder to not be afraid to BE SEXUAL with the girl. Otherwise its straight to the friend zone with ya.
3) "Judge by actions, not by words" If a girl says she loves you and she goes out and cheats on you, you ought to get the idea. YOU did something wrong.
4) "Patience is the refined sense of confidence" I need to keep this in mind more often. If you're patient you look less desperate. If a bunch of dudes are hitting on a girl and you aren't, she wonders why not. YOU must be important. YOU are the prize here. Don't rush!
5) "Trust the gut" Feel like its time to kiss her? It probably is. Do it, trust your intuition.
6) "You are a great catch" Think it, breath it, eat it, believe it. The great catch doesn't obsess over certain girls. He can get anyone because HE is the prize.
7) "Respect is all" Respect yourself, be a man. How can anyone respect you if you don't respect yourself?
8) "Only the sexual ones get the girls" Very true. If you are afraid t to feel sexual about her, you're going to become her friend and nothing more. I know kids at school who love the hotties but they don't act sexual around them enough and the girls find them like "brothers".
9) "Be not contained by formula" AKA tricks and tactics. Pook says these are good for newbies to get things rolling but really you need to improve from the inside and the outside will take care of itself. An example of a formula is talking to a girl on the phone for no longer than 20 minutes. Its a general time limit just so you don't seem needy, but don't be CONTAINED by the formula.
10) "As you think, you shall become" Think you're a loser? It's true, you are. Think you're a champ? Its true, you are. You must believe it though.
11) "Getting a girl is not the success" Pook points out how a lot of chumps will base success on getting a girl. "Oh, only if I could have a girlfriend I would be happy!" The poor AFC's cry. I remember thinking this long ago. The success is in IMPROVING YOURSELF. Girls are just a bonus. :)
12) "Unite dream and day" Have dreams that you wish you could do? There's NO reason not to. Get off your lazy ass, stop studying techniques on how to pick girls up and unite your dreams with day.
13) "Charm is treating women like little girls" I was kind of confused by this one. What I got from it is that when you are a child, you never think about how to have fun with a girl. You have a plan of what you want to play and you DO it. You don't ask her oppinion on it. You tell her to play with you. You tease her, you poke at her, push her. All this stuff is just you naturally being a Don Juan! At one point in your life you WERE a Don Juan. Then you started thinking too much about it and you ruined it. Have fun with girls, it shouldn't be a math problem. Get out of your head and have a good time!
14) "Always have a back-up chick" Have fun with all the girls, date all the girls. YOU get to choose which you want and if something doesn't work out you have a ton of back-ups!
15) "The greatest risk in life is not risking it all" You aren't going to get anything without risking anything. Stop being a little puss, MAN UP, and go for what you want. Trust me, rejection is sooooooooo much better than regretting not taking any action. I promise.
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Perfect is boring! I read Pook's article on this and I kept telling myself that throughout the nights when taking risks. Something wrong with me? Who cares? Perfect is boring. I used to think of myself as weird because I am more hyper then everyone. If I didn't have energy I would be boring! No one would want to be around someone who brings them down. Especially girls.
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Thank you Pook for I finally understand WHY girls lack the jerks! I have also learned that NICE GUYS FINISH FIRST!
What girls like in jerks is that they are not afraid to show their raw sexuality. They are not afraid to disagree. They are pretty close to a MAN. The nice guy is afraid of showing his sexuality and will always agree with the girl and does not portray masculinity. He acts feminine. In between the two is what all should strive for. The GREAT GUY! A nice guy who is a man. There is no reason to be an asshole and verbally abuse women. Show that you feel sexually for her and that you are a good person. Be a man. That is a Don Juan as far as I'm concerned.
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The last article this week that has hit me pretty well is the looks vs personality. Women would choose a less attractive man with a attractive personality over a physically attractive man with a terrible personality. Don't take this the wrong way! You must do what you can to make yourself physically attractive. Dress nice, bulk up, take care of yourself. After all you are proud of yourself so you are going to take care of yourself. As Pook says, Prince charming isn't going to wear a ragged t-shirt. On the contrary, he will wear spiffy clothes that he is proud of because he is a great catch and any girl would be lucky to have him.
Bitter chumps will say that they don't care and they will find a girl who likes them for who they are. But then they go after the gorgeous girls! See the fat, pimple faced chick, with ratty clothes? If you dress like her that's what you can get. Don't expect a women to take anything less attractive than herself.
But when it comes down to it, if there is a Skinny chump with a attractive personality, he would win the girl before a muscular chump with no personality. This is kind of what I got out of Pooks article anyway.
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The fountain of youth!
A great read this week by Pook. I have a ton of cousins about the age of when they are NATURAL Don Juans. Tonight I was babysitting my 6 year old girl cousin and 10 year old boy cousin, Tanner. I decided to ask him if he had a girlfriend. Being as he is at the point of natural DJism I was curious. "Sort of."He said, so I decided to dig deeper. "Yeah, I have a crush on this one girl..." I asked if she knows. "Yeah" Well does she know you both like eachother? "Yes"
I was curious how they act around eachother differently then other people. "Well, I'm more funny around her..." (AKA She FINDS him more funny, laughing at jokes that other people woulnt find humourous. IOI!) I continued prodding him for info. I didnt want to say do you guys "flirt" because I dont think he'd know what that ment. "She punches me" he laughs. What do you do back? "I push her because Tina's boyfriend said that I can't hit girls. Yeah only if its playful. Not if youre mad at them I say. I escalated into asking if he has ever kissed her and he said "no, but he kissed my best friend" I gave an expression of shock and he continued, "Yeah! she did this..." He held his middle and index finger out and together, kissed the fingertips and touched his sisters cheek. I responded "Oh, well thats not really a kiss you know. No big deal." He exclaimed "Yeah but my friend did it back!!!" I pretended to be shocked because I want to inforce anything he's going through. I dont want him to loose the DJism as I did. "Yeah I was soo mad! I was like, dude! Are you trying to steal my woman?!" I laughed with him and told him the way he can steal her back guarenteed is to give her a smooch. Not on the fingers like his friend did. But give her a kiss on the lips. "The lips? Does it have to be on the lips?" Yes the lips, I mean I guess you could kiss her on the cheek... but that's how you would kiss your sister. "Yeah..." Do it, I guarentee she will like you more than your friend.
I found this very interesting and sort of "cute" for lack of a better word... :)
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Thanks for checking this out guys, have a discussion, respond to posts here! :
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1041303#post1041303
Pook brings out the idea of improving yourself within rather than trying to use tricks and tactics to pick up women. This makes complete sense to me and a lot of the stuff I have read by Pook I have realized in my journey on my own and he has reinforced it. For example - Mystery. Instead of pretending to be mysterious, why not actually BE mysterious? Its more fun, less work, and better in the long run. Be too busy to be around all the time rather then pretending to be too busy. After all do you think the naturals use tricks and tactics? No they don't know of these tactics. The naturals convey all the tricks and tactics naturally.
NOTE: A majority of the credit for this learning experience goes to Pook.
--
15 lessons that I want to keep in mind that I have learned so far from Pook. He has elaborated on these obviously, but just as a reminder:
(Italics = Pook and Normal = me)
1) "Rejections is better than regret" Very true! Sure I've heard this before but when I went to a dance recently I really wanted to see for myself and it was very true. I felt so happy that I attempted to pick up a bunch of girls rather than sitting there drooling over the hotties like the other AFCs.
2) "Stay out of the friend zone" I have realized this forever but it's always a good reminder to not be afraid to BE SEXUAL with the girl. Otherwise its straight to the friend zone with ya.
3) "Judge by actions, not by words" If a girl says she loves you and she goes out and cheats on you, you ought to get the idea. YOU did something wrong.
4) "Patience is the refined sense of confidence" I need to keep this in mind more often. If you're patient you look less desperate. If a bunch of dudes are hitting on a girl and you aren't, she wonders why not. YOU must be important. YOU are the prize here. Don't rush!
5) "Trust the gut" Feel like its time to kiss her? It probably is. Do it, trust your intuition.
6) "You are a great catch" Think it, breath it, eat it, believe it. The great catch doesn't obsess over certain girls. He can get anyone because HE is the prize.
7) "Respect is all" Respect yourself, be a man. How can anyone respect you if you don't respect yourself?
8) "Only the sexual ones get the girls" Very true. If you are afraid t to feel sexual about her, you're going to become her friend and nothing more. I know kids at school who love the hotties but they don't act sexual around them enough and the girls find them like "brothers".
9) "Be not contained by formula" AKA tricks and tactics. Pook says these are good for newbies to get things rolling but really you need to improve from the inside and the outside will take care of itself. An example of a formula is talking to a girl on the phone for no longer than 20 minutes. Its a general time limit just so you don't seem needy, but don't be CONTAINED by the formula.
10) "As you think, you shall become" Think you're a loser? It's true, you are. Think you're a champ? Its true, you are. You must believe it though.
11) "Getting a girl is not the success" Pook points out how a lot of chumps will base success on getting a girl. "Oh, only if I could have a girlfriend I would be happy!" The poor AFC's cry. I remember thinking this long ago. The success is in IMPROVING YOURSELF. Girls are just a bonus. :)
12) "Unite dream and day" Have dreams that you wish you could do? There's NO reason not to. Get off your lazy ass, stop studying techniques on how to pick girls up and unite your dreams with day.
13) "Charm is treating women like little girls" I was kind of confused by this one. What I got from it is that when you are a child, you never think about how to have fun with a girl. You have a plan of what you want to play and you DO it. You don't ask her oppinion on it. You tell her to play with you. You tease her, you poke at her, push her. All this stuff is just you naturally being a Don Juan! At one point in your life you WERE a Don Juan. Then you started thinking too much about it and you ruined it. Have fun with girls, it shouldn't be a math problem. Get out of your head and have a good time!
14) "Always have a back-up chick" Have fun with all the girls, date all the girls. YOU get to choose which you want and if something doesn't work out you have a ton of back-ups!
15) "The greatest risk in life is not risking it all" You aren't going to get anything without risking anything. Stop being a little puss, MAN UP, and go for what you want. Trust me, rejection is sooooooooo much better than regretting not taking any action. I promise.
--
Perfect is boring! I read Pook's article on this and I kept telling myself that throughout the nights when taking risks. Something wrong with me? Who cares? Perfect is boring. I used to think of myself as weird because I am more hyper then everyone. If I didn't have energy I would be boring! No one would want to be around someone who brings them down. Especially girls.
--
Thank you Pook for I finally understand WHY girls lack the jerks! I have also learned that NICE GUYS FINISH FIRST!
What girls like in jerks is that they are not afraid to show their raw sexuality. They are not afraid to disagree. They are pretty close to a MAN. The nice guy is afraid of showing his sexuality and will always agree with the girl and does not portray masculinity. He acts feminine. In between the two is what all should strive for. The GREAT GUY! A nice guy who is a man. There is no reason to be an asshole and verbally abuse women. Show that you feel sexually for her and that you are a good person. Be a man. That is a Don Juan as far as I'm concerned.
--
The last article this week that has hit me pretty well is the looks vs personality. Women would choose a less attractive man with a attractive personality over a physically attractive man with a terrible personality. Don't take this the wrong way! You must do what you can to make yourself physically attractive. Dress nice, bulk up, take care of yourself. After all you are proud of yourself so you are going to take care of yourself. As Pook says, Prince charming isn't going to wear a ragged t-shirt. On the contrary, he will wear spiffy clothes that he is proud of because he is a great catch and any girl would be lucky to have him.
Bitter chumps will say that they don't care and they will find a girl who likes them for who they are. But then they go after the gorgeous girls! See the fat, pimple faced chick, with ratty clothes? If you dress like her that's what you can get. Don't expect a women to take anything less attractive than herself.
But when it comes down to it, if there is a Skinny chump with a attractive personality, he would win the girl before a muscular chump with no personality. This is kind of what I got out of Pooks article anyway.
--
The fountain of youth!
A great read this week by Pook. I have a ton of cousins about the age of when they are NATURAL Don Juans. Tonight I was babysitting my 6 year old girl cousin and 10 year old boy cousin, Tanner. I decided to ask him if he had a girlfriend. Being as he is at the point of natural DJism I was curious. "Sort of."He said, so I decided to dig deeper. "Yeah, I have a crush on this one girl..." I asked if she knows. "Yeah" Well does she know you both like eachother? "Yes"
I was curious how they act around eachother differently then other people. "Well, I'm more funny around her..." (AKA She FINDS him more funny, laughing at jokes that other people woulnt find humourous. IOI!) I continued prodding him for info. I didnt want to say do you guys "flirt" because I dont think he'd know what that ment. "She punches me" he laughs. What do you do back? "I push her because Tina's boyfriend said that I can't hit girls. Yeah only if its playful. Not if youre mad at them I say. I escalated into asking if he has ever kissed her and he said "no, but he kissed my best friend" I gave an expression of shock and he continued, "Yeah! she did this..." He held his middle and index finger out and together, kissed the fingertips and touched his sisters cheek. I responded "Oh, well thats not really a kiss you know. No big deal." He exclaimed "Yeah but my friend did it back!!!" I pretended to be shocked because I want to inforce anything he's going through. I dont want him to loose the DJism as I did. "Yeah I was soo mad! I was like, dude! Are you trying to steal my woman?!" I laughed with him and told him the way he can steal her back guarenteed is to give her a smooch. Not on the fingers like his friend did. But give her a kiss on the lips. "The lips? Does it have to be on the lips?" Yes the lips, I mean I guess you could kiss her on the cheek... but that's how you would kiss your sister. "Yeah..." Do it, I guarentee she will like you more than your friend.
I found this very interesting and sort of "cute" for lack of a better word... :)
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Thanks for checking this out guys, have a discussion, respond to posts here! :
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1041303#post1041303
Labels: Self Improvement - Week one
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